When ever you come across someone that is mentally strong, you are sure to see that they possess the qualities listed below. Go through it and see if you fall into this group of people.
1.
Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves. You don’t see mentally strong people feeling sorry for their
circumstances or dwelling on the way they’ve been mistreated. They have learned
to take responsibility for their actions and outcomes, and they have an
inherent understanding of the fact that frequently life is not fair. They are
able to emerge from trying circumstances with self-awareness and gratitude for
the lessons learned. When a situation turns out badly, they respond with
phrases such as “Oh, well.” Or perhaps simply, “Next!”
2.
Give Away Their Power. Mentally
strong people avoid giving others the power to make them feel inferior or bad.
They understand they are in control of their actions and emotions. They know
their strength is in their ability to manage the way they respond.
3.
Shy Away from Change. Mentally
strong people embrace change and they welcome challenge. Their biggest “fear,”
if they have one, is not of the unknown, but of becoming complacent and
stagnant. An environment of change and even uncertainty can energize a mentally
strong person and bring out their best.
4.
Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control. Mentally strong people don’t complain (much) about bad
traffic, lost luggage, or especially about other people, as they
recognize that all of these factors are generally beyond their control. In a
bad situation, they recognize that the one thing they can always control is
their own response and attitude, and they use these attributes well.
5.
Worry About Pleasing Others. Know
any people pleasers? Or, conversely, people who go out of their way to dis-please
others as a way of reinforcing an image of strength? Neither position is a good
one. A mentally strong person strives to be kind and fair and to please others
where appropriate, but is unafraid to speak up. They are able to withstand the
possibility that someone will get upset and will navigate the situation,
wherever possible, with grace. It takes much practice to hone mental strength
6.
Fear Taking Calculated Risks.
A mentally strong person is willing to take calculated risks. This is a
different thing entirely than jumping headlong into foolish risks. But with
mental strength, an individual can weigh the risks and benefits thoroughly, and
will fully assess the potential downsides and even the worst-case scenarios
before they take action.
7.
Dwell on the Past. There
is strength in acknowledging the past and especially in acknowledging the
things learned from past experiences—but a mentally strong person is able to
avoid miring their mental energy in past disappointments or in fantasies of the
“glory days” gone by. They invest the majority of their energy in creating an
optimal present and future.
8.
Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over. We
all know the definition of insanity, right? It’s when we take the same actions
again and again while hoping for a different and better outcome than we’ve
gotten before. A mentally strong person accepts full responsibility for past
behavior and is willing to learn from mistakes. Research shows that the ability to be self-reflective
in an accurate and productive way is one of the greatest strengths of
spectacularly successful executives and entrepreneurs.
9.
Resent Other People’s Success. It
takes strength of character to feel genuine joy and excitement for other
people’s success. Mentally strong people have this ability. They don’t become
jealous or resentful when others succeed (although they may take close notes on
what the individual did well). They are willing to work hard for their own
chances at success, without relying on shortcuts.
10.
Give Up After Failure. Every
failure is a chance to improve. Even the greatest entrepreneurs are willing to
admit that their early efforts invariably brought many failures. Mentally
strong people are willing to fail again and again, if necessary, as long as the
learning experience from every “failure” can bring them closer to their
ultimate goals.
11.
Fear Alone Time. Mentally
strong people enjoy and even treasure the time they spend alone. They use their
downtime to reflect, to plan, and to be productive. Most importantly, they
don’t depend on others to shore up their happiness and moods. They can be happy
with others, and they can also be happy alone.
12.
Feel the World Owes Them Anything. Particularly
in the current economy, executives and employees at every level are gaining the
realization that the world does not owe them a salary, a benefits package and a
comfortable life, regardless of their preparation and schooling. Mentally
strong people enter the world prepared to work and succeed on their merits, at
every stage of the game.
13. Expect Immediate Results. Whether it’s a workout plan, a nutritional regimen, or starting a business, mentally strong people are “in it for the long haul”. They know better than to expect immediate results. They apply their energy and time in measured doses and they celebrate each milestone and increment of success on the way. They have “staying power.” And they understand that genuine changes take time.
13. Expect Immediate Results. Whether it’s a workout plan, a nutritional regimen, or starting a business, mentally strong people are “in it for the long haul”. They know better than to expect immediate results. They apply their energy and time in measured doses and they celebrate each milestone and increment of success on the way. They have “staying power.” And they understand that genuine changes take time.
Do
you have mental strength? Are there elements on this list you need more of?
With thanks to Amy Morin, I would like to reinforce my own abilities further in
each of these areas today. How about you?
Culled from Forbes.com
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